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20 Years Young

 

LinkedIn tells me it’s been 20 years since I ventured into the wonderful world of coaching – and if LinkedIn says it’s so, well, it must be. It’s therefore a logical time to reflect on the journey to this point and on what the future holds, but also to ask a critical question – how to celebrate?

As with so many great moves, my foray into coaching was serendipitous. At an…

Camp GLP 2016 – Same on the outside, different on the inside.

A few weeks ago I went to Camp GLP – the “summer camp for adults” experience I’ve attended twice before, and written about here. It was in the same location and included many of the same activities and people as in previous years – and yet this time it felt different, both in the moment and afterwards.

As one of my favourite authors, Jon Kabat-Zinn, wrote, “Wherever you go, there you…

Sabre-toothed Tigers and Mindfulness

I was being interviewed by a prospective client recently and, as always, I asked about her desired outcome for the coaching. Her response? “Help me find my 7.”

She explained. She was either operating at full speed, or hitting a wall and crashing. Nothing in between. She felt she had to be at top speed most of the time, but knew – could increasingly feel – that being at maximum capacity…

6 Things I’d Tell you if we had Coffee (for coaches)

Maybe it’s the desire for freedom and flexibility in summer, maybe it’s a recent spate of corporate downsizings – in any event, I’ve had a recent uptick in requests for coffee meetings with prospective coaches.

The requests seem, on the surface, reasonably innocuous.  “I’m thinking about becoming a coach and would love to get your thoughts.” “I’ve got a friend (relative/former colleague)…

Resisting a “to do?” Try these Three Questions.

I’m often in conversation with people who are conflicted, confused, reluctant or resentful about something that they “have to” do – often without really knowing why they’re feeling that way.

Sometimes it’s a “should”  (always a warning flag!).

Sometimes it’s something they’ve already committed to doing but for which they’ve lost their enthusiasm.

Sometimes they’re in a place of…

Authenticity, jerks and speaking your truth at work

 

While I haven’t posted here in a while, I’ve been pretty busy over on Facebook and LinkedIn. At the time of this post my latest Pulse article, (Don’t be the Jerk at Work), has upwards of 900 views – quite a lot for me, and it’s still climbing. As with most of what I write, it was prompted by an experience I had personally. In this case, though, it appears to have connected into…

Do Something Different

I went dancing in the dark the other evening. It was an organized event where you drop your shoes at the door, enter a fully darkened room and just dance for an hour. No worries about who else is there or what you look like. It was one of the most fun things I’ve done in a long while. And while it seems a simple enough idea, I would never have even known about it much less attended if not for t…

10 Things I’d Tell you if We Had Coffee (for career changers)

“Can I pick your brain?”

“I’d love to buy you a coffee and have a chat – I’m thinking about a major change in career direction and I’d love your input.” 

“My friend says you’ve been great at helping them figure some stuff out – can I let you know what I’m up to and see what you think?”

Being a coach is rewarding and helpful and work that I truly love – and it’s not always understood…

Less email, more relationship.

I recently had a misunderstanding with a long-standing colleague.  I had business to do and I wanted him to participate. He wasn’t as keen as I’d believed, based on history, that he would be. I needed his services. He didn’t need what I had to offer. There were emails back and forth – lots of them – with no resolution or improvement apparent. Until – to his credit – he picked up the phone and…

If you don’t love what you do, you’re always going to be average.

 

I was interviewed the other day by a prospective new executive coaching client. Really interesting guy – great energy, intelligent, in a terrific job where he’s surrounded by smart people and lots of opportunities to learn. The problem is – he’s not loving it. Which, for a lot of people might not be a huge issue given all the other benefits (he’s paid well, it’s prestigious, ther…

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