While most of my work is company-sponsored in support of leaders being better where they are, I have always had a steady stream of clients who seek my services of their own volition. In those cases the reason is almost always what I have come to characterize as a “fulfillment crisis” – that vague, gnawing sense of discontent when everything looks perfect on the outside yet feels far from right on the inside – when the individual says things like “I should be perfectly happy, but…” They cite feelings of disconnectedness between who they are and what they do, a lack of alignment between what they value and what they’re driving day to day and a general sense of something “missing.” And, if you’ve read my book, “The Complete Executive: The 10-Step System for Great Leadership Performance” you’ll know that item #53, “Passion for the Business” cannot be achieved when you’re disengaged, which means they have to solve for their frustration or they cannot possibly be effective as leaders.
When I begin work with those people – educated, successful executive level people who’ve achieved everything they’d ever hoped and planned for – their starting point is almost always the belief that they’re going to have to leave their job in order to achieve that elusive sense of happiness and alignment. After all, most of the “live your purpose” propaganda out there in self-improvement land would have you believe that it’s completely impossible to work for someone else and be truly happy. And while in many cases my clients have indeed had to make a professional change, thankfully there have been exceptions where fulfillment was in fact possible with some change in perspective and a re-ordering of priorities. Up until now, though, I didn’t have a road map to understand – and create – the exceptions – no model to which I could point people as a “how to” for this epic, idealized life.
Enter Kristoffer Carter* and his “Epic Life Manifesto.”
KC, as he’s known, is a bona fide rock star, dedicated husband, father to three young children, yogi, runner and digital sales exec who travels the U.S. mid-West leading a team as part of an extraordinary company called Centro. And if that sounds like an impossible cocktail of stress, time management and priority-juggling, well – it is, and not only has KC figured out how to make it all work, he’s put it into a model and guide – a 75-page Manifesto that he’s releasing today.
I’m not going to tell KC’s story – only he can do it justice – but rest assured, reading it will be worth your time. Just know that it starts with a crisis, involves some rigorous self-examination and some seriously heavy lifting, was possible in part because of the support system he magnetized around himself, and is already more rewarding and more full of possibilities than even he could have imagined.
There is a lot to learn from what KC has to say. For me, though, one of the key ideas in his model (and his life) is the understanding that you can create what you want where you are. That it’s not necessary – or even wise – to think you have to turn your life upside down to solve for fulfillment.
So if you’re interested in creating a fully integrated life – one that honors all of who you are and what you want to achieve – check out KC’s work.
*Full disclosure – I met KC through Jonathan Fields’ Good Life Project group this year, and he’s become a good friend, so I’m highly biased in favor of just about anything he does. That said, he’s truly one of the wisest, hardest working and most creative beings I’ve ever had the privilege to know. And if you click through the links in this post, you’ll discover that everything he’s got to offer on his site is F*R*E*E.* Which means that my take in directing you his way is exactly ZERO. Just wanted to be clear, in case you all caught sight of my hidden agenda.